This is a proven method and tested guide based on actual experiences & practiced strategies that worked and won both sole physical & sole legal custody challenging an equally matched parent. This will better prepare you, establish a better advantaged position, focus you, and increase your chances of success long BEFORE you even begin any evaluation and hearings. Don't take the chance of walking into this cut-throat battle with your opponent fully prepared with facts, details, damaging accusations, and a well laid-out case against you; and you with little more than you or your attorney asking for consideration! Don't make the common mistake of pleading before an evaluating judge or psychologist that the other parent isn't the better choice, with little more than your word or accusations! What do you think your chances will be if you go unprepared, empty handed, and less convincing? Even prayers won't help much then.
It is critical to learn where to start, essentials to be gained as early as possible, important tactics & strategy, what to do (and not do), what to look out for, how to prepare, and what to use & how to present yourself & your side in the most convincing, compelling & effective way to win custody. You will be shown what’s critically important to the courts (and the support systems) and how to present your case in the best possible light. This is one realm where knowledge is power and the unprepared will lose. Only you know the weaknesses and issues of the other parent so it’s up to you to be perceptive enough to see and capitalize appropriate information to arm your attorney with ammunition that really matters and to face evaluations with relevant persuasiveness.
"You’ll be given 140 examples of violations to use against the other parent, many you may not have known or thought mattered"
Whether you feel the opposing parent has treated you with contempt, has used your child against you (or threatened to do so), does things not in a child’s best interest or on the other hand you really can’t find something very bad about that parent – this will help you win your case. You will be provided details to win against what you perceive to be that equally matched parent, understand that there are negative factors only you may know but aren’t sure how to capitalize on. These insights will give you a huge advantage. You’ll be shown what matters more to evaluators and courts and how to use it to your advantage. You will learn how to quickly capitalize on the issues the ‘system’ should know but may otherwise never get revealed that mattes. Once properly armed, it can be overwhelming to defend against.
The real choice comes down to which is the better alternative relative to each other and how to convince others of this fact. The court system can be unfair, is typically in a hurry to gloss over most everything and barely touch on all the relevant details; so you better know how to use everything to your advantage & better your odds. If you are scared that you may not win custody or feel like you don't know where to start, or don’t have a firm grasp how to achieve it; seek advice on methods by a father who has actually gone through it and won. This is NOT a theoretical compilation of observances or luck from someone who never actually won custody or by guessing how it ‘could’ be done.
Some exmples what you’ll learn to successfully deal with:
• know what the deciding factors courts use to determine who wins.
• prepare you well in advance for any evaluation & subsequent hearings.
• know what mistakes not to make.
• know what things to do early on that greatly advantage your position.
• leverage things against her that you thought trivial or might not know are relative.
• know what at ammunition to use & to look for that's effective that you may not have thought important.
• present your case & ammunition to advantage yourself with maximum impact.
• organize & promote your side in the best light.
• how to plan your strategies.
• 10 things you need do first.
• how to prepare for an evaluation & interviews.
• strategies for court & hearings.
• how to turn tide if your are losing.
• adequately defend against accusations and to take the offensive.
• win the psychological warfare.
• gain the upper hand & use tactics against the opposing parent.
• turn defeats into wins.
• how to handle a threatening & difficult spouse
• understand that your attorney is only half the equation.
• how to tremendously help an attorney win.
• what ammunition to give your attorney.
• how to save money with your attorney.
• How to challenge her accusations successfully?
• How to handle yourself in there?
• should you go through courts or mediation, merits & drawbacks of both.
• How to win against a sneaky cunning spouse who is mean & threatening in private.
• how to become and appear to be the better parent & the better alternative.
• get out of spinning your wheels if you find yourself constantly defending yourself against accusations & attacks, and from losing or looking bad.
• effectively crush her psychologically or make her screw up & give you even more ammunition.
• how to challenge a bad evaluation.
• dumping a lazy or bad attorney.
CRITICAL: 129 additional pages are devoted to critical information that compiles definitive factors of how their respective courts, mediators & evaluations determine custody. These are the factors they must use in weighing both sides to determine the more appropriate parent. And an evaluation that doesn’t abide by these factors in rendering a final determination can be challenged. Without knowing these essential guidelines, you are in the dark about preparing for what the courts are looking for, judging the parties on, and what decisions are based upon. These factors are coupled with over 140 examples violations in everyday life to apply that it seems many never think of. Utilizing the proper ammunition, you’ll see that the less optimal parent is destined to lose or even a seemingly good parent who arrogantly thinks they will easily win; will be taken totally by surprise in the end. You could spend hours or days attempting to find these and possibly still not find them (if you even knew specifically what to look for). But all the legwork has been done for you, each and every state in one place.
Why should you choose this and what makes the advice valid and reliable?
The author / father has actually gone through the entire process and successfully achieved both sole physical and sole legal custody of a pre-school aged child. This is not based upon theory, but knowledge that can win custody against an equally matched parent who had no seemingly horrible or easy issues to capitalize upon, no big vices, or drug issues, etc.
Learn to take advantage of ammunition the other parent unknowingly offers you
Against a very well prepared, methodical, and persuasive challenge; the usual naive or arrogant over-confident parent will be caught off-guard having previously made errors in judgment and actions that are critically important for custody determination. Knowing what to look for and how to capitalize on things is paramount. In a tactical war against two closely matched parents, certainly the one who knows more of the specific rules & information vital to custody determination is generally the tougher to win against when proper preparation has been achieved. Arrogance and over-confidence can lead to subtle yet important violations of factors in custody determinations.
Don’t rely on an attorney to know everything & expect miracles
You pay an attorney to represent you in the court hearings. But what prepares the foundation behind the scenes leading to it that can greatly increase your chances? An already busy overloaded attorney who's mind set is on court procedures - is NOT the best place to start looking for the answers to questions you don't even know to ask. Attorneys are only tools within the court to effectively work against your opponent's attorney and help reveal your facts to a judge. Do you realize that attorneys are essentially tools to express your side and are presenters of your facts & arguments? What you provide to them it is your responsibility. If you can't provide the proper ammunition the lawyer needs to persuade any court in your favor, it won't even matter if you have the best attorney in the world. You can’t hope to succeed by providing an attorney with too little to go on, or a weak case to base an adequate defense or failing to provide the right keys for a good offense, (in addition to being hit with accusations & charges you didn't even see coming and now can’t defend against). Presenting a well thought out and persuasive case reflects equally upon how much thought you will put into raising a child and how important and prepared you will be for any situation involving upbringing.
The key is knowing what to use, preparation, and how to present it.
In order to provide the best possible chance, it is up to you to build your case and gain advantages early on. Don't blindly leave the rest of your life (and your child's) solely in the hands of essentially an unknown attorney. From the beginning you need help on what to do & how, and the typically your first question is "what do I do now"? Most don't know what to do and where to start first. Knowing what facts to capitalize on against the other parent & what tools to give your attorney determines your outcome. The same equally applies for any potentially critical evaluation. This is why you need the proper knowledge before hand to tackle such an offense. You’ll be shown what to look for and what to use against her that you normally wouldn't think of, or didn’t think would be important enough to make any difference. You'll be surprised how effective this can be. You'll learn what to use that really makes a difference to the courts, psychologists, and anyone evaluating your case which they can't overlook if you know how to properly present yourself and the facts.
Is your child worth it to you?
Whichever parent a child ends up living with, it will be one of the most important outcomes in your life and certainly that of your child’s entire future. are you going to leave you and your child's life in the hands of chance, blind hopes, strangers who truly know little of either of you, a set of opposing attorneys, or a court system that traditionally glosses over facts superficially in making that decision? Can you honestly say at this moment that you know what to do and how to go about accomplishing that goal? Are you thinking you'll just leave all that to an attorney who really doesn't know all the facts and details like you do? Or do you want to look back after losing and reflect on what you should have done, or say to yourself, "if I had only done things differently, and had only known in advance it would turn out against you"?
Do you know what to expect in an evaluation & interview?
Be aware that your attorney will be of little help or prepare you for the potential psychological evaluations process (which provides its recommendation to the courts that will make or break your chances). You are on your own for this. If you
walk into this without preparation and fail, don't say I didn't warn you. I’ll tell you
from actual experience what it’s like, what to expect, preparations, and what to
do if it potentially goes wrong.
Ask yourself; do you honestly feel you are the better choice as a parent?
Don't pursue custody for selfish reasons or for retaliatory motivation just to hurt the other parent or to win a prize. But if you know & feel in your heart you are the better choice, then preparation & knowledge is power in the arena of custody battles. If you blindly walk into court unprepared to present why you are the better parent and respond with a couple complaints or "I want it", or "she's a mean person", or can only 'bad-mouth' him or her; expect to lose. An opposing attorney is intent upon tearing you apart to make you look bad. You must know how to plan against this attack. You should lay the foundation and demonstrate as soon as possible how to mount a comprehensive & methodical offensive with a convincing viable presentation.
Isn't investing in winning custody of your child worth the price of a ticket to a sports event, a partial tank of gas, a cheap dinner out, or an article of clothing? Or for the price a child's toy, this is a much better investment in your future (and your child's). Besides, with attorney's fees perhaps as high as $300 an hour or more for advice that isn't detailed or as helpful, this is priced far less and you get a whole lot more.
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“After the two atty's reviewed the evidence, they were quick to settle and her atty was willing to drop primary custodian and sole legal for her.”
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“I walked into the courthouse with ammunition that the mother lied in her court papers, she stated in her affidavit. I also provided recordings of her lying about other items in her sworn statements that were not as significant.”
“The mother has had this child and I provided evidence that our son is not thriving in that household.”
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“I have been reading your book, now I have so many facts and ammunition.
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“I now have new counsel because the first one has done nothing for six weeks and doesn't seem interested in fighting this very much. After presenting information you helped me provide, he suggested to hit her hard with a custody evaluation and temporary orders motion to establish my parent time to make it clear how serious I am about her behavior and seeking custody.”
“I think that is why statistically the numbers of men winning custody are so low, they either give in, or they abandoned their child and give up trying to be a part of their child's life due to the difficultly the mother makes it for the father to be involved in their life. Its too bad so many fathers such as myself have to expend so much time, mental energy and money just to be a good father.” Note: any parent that has attempted to do this is exactly what this information is designed to capitalize on and tremendously increase your chances of winning custody. Any parent arrogant enough to make things difficult for the other parent to any degree deserves what this information is intended to achieve.
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