Who am I & what are my
credentials ?
I am a middle class father who is devoted & dedicated my life to my child. I am a college educated degreed professional and fought for custody while in my later half of my thirties. I am not employed in
any field even remotely
related to the legal system or custody. Nor did I have any legal training. My initial introduction to the legal system was during this 'glorious' encounter. Therefore my views, perceptions, and
background are not influenced by innumerable custody cases where individuals and
the
details experienced are lost in the mind numbing volumes of statistics. My
perceptions are not based on an "outsider" viewing men's custody cases failing
nearly 100%. I therefore am not basing my winning formula on what not to do by the
overwhelming failures of most fathers. My perceptions are based on actually
living experiences of success. I am writing from intimately knowing the struggles,
feelings, hardships, and obstacles experienced. I am an equally matched father
who won both sole
physical & sole legal custody.
What makes this manuscript different?
Book shelves
are full of books (as is the web) with authors who
write expertly on winning your custody case. Some are good, some
not. The question I had for myself was, do any of these experts have the
credentials of personally winning themselves? Or are they merely
"outsiders" or observers who are
writing about the failures
they saw in the court rooms? Did they base their judgments mostly on what amazingly little they truly see of any particular
individual, or what's really been going on in everyday life behind the
scenes that leads up to hearings? It may be likely many authors base much or their "winning formula"
findings on seeing men's failures, and what not to do. When I went through the entire process and sought books on this, I
wanted to hear & learn from those who
actually did the climbing, clawing, telling me of the obstacles encountered and how they overcame them. I wanted to get a feel for
what they felt & experienced; the troubles & hardships, the
emotions & stresses to be faced; and how they dealt with it
all. I needed to hear some of the details of what went on behind
the scenes that helps lead to victory
that the evaluations and courts
never see or hear about. Yes some of my suggestions may be
similar overall to others in some respects, but additionally, I'll give insight and knowledge on what's it really like and how
to overcame adversity. If you already have another book,
this will be
a great addition.
Was there something wrong with the mother that made it easy
for you to win?
I occasionally get asked this question by
others wondering how I won, assuming that traditionally the mother
gets custody unless something is terribly wrong with her to make it
easy, like drugs, etc. I won because I was the better alternative to raise our
child and proved this point. I'll
show how to prove this point and counter her attempts to ruin your
credibility as the better parent.
How long ago did you win custody of your
child?
I was awarded sole physical & legal custody in 1999.
Can reading this really make such a difference?
Yes ! Winning custody
isn't just being the better parent. It is knowing what to do, how to apply that
knowledge, how to accentuate your best, find the other's weaknesses and apply them
to "the rules", and putting all the pieces together in the best way like a
puzzle. Knowledge is power. There is a lot to know and a lot of errors
(tactical and otherwise) one can make. This knowledge will help you a lot and
make your endeavors easier. This may help you identify
with what you may face and what it could feel like to go through it
all. This manuscript helps you relate to experiences you will encounter and how
I dealt with them successfully.
How many pages does it contain?
Approxiamtely two hundred and sixty pages formatted to 8.5x11. However
when reformatted with larger print and resized to the smaller more
traditional dimensions of a book, the page count is comparable to most
other literature on the market.
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Are there guarantees ?
No. There is no way anyone can guarantee results. There is only a guarantee that you will receive the manuscript you
paid for. However it would be impossible for me to guarantee success in winning your
custody case. There is no guarantee of success or outcome. There are
too many
variables and circumstances that greatly affect and determine everyone's outcome.
Although this knowledge should help better your chances, there is no implied warrantee or
guarantee regarding this. Success is solely up to you and your circumstances.
Personal Note: I came across a saying I've
always remembered and gave me the initial impetus to begin writing
this to help other fathers win custody against traditionally stiff
odds, I'd like to share it with you :
A woman was walking the
beach after a terrible storm. She noticed a young man ahead of her
picking up starfish and throwing them into the surf. When she
reached the man, she asked him why he was returning the starfish to
the ocean. She asked, "With millions of starfish on the beach,
what difference can you make?" The young man smiled at the woman,
reached down and picked up a starfish. Throwing it into the sea, he
said, "It makes a difference to this one."